Being overly critical, from a Chinese medicine perspective, is rooted in an out-of-balance lung meridian. Often born of unresolved grief or loss, judging others can make us habitually so nitpicky that people are more than likely walking on eggshells around us. And yet all folks who continually find fault with others are actually even more relentlessly harsh when it comes to themselves. When we are thus judging, we cannot at the same time be feeling love, and so constant criticism is an energy state that depletes and defeats any momentum we are gaining toward a calm, grounded, and balanced state within. By practicing deep breathing, feeling compassion, walking in nature, and affirming, “All is well and unfolding perfectly according to Divine timing”, we can help soften and shape our Inner Critic into a hopeful, helping hand.
Winning or losing, energetically speaking, comes down to how you perceive what’s happened. Perhaps you don’t cross the finish line first in that 5K, yet you post a personal best time. Or maybe you don’t get the job offer you were expecting, but instead meet a meaningful contact who networks you into your next position. If you cultivate a positive outlook through deep breathing, proper nutrition, nature walks, and the affirmation, “Life is always working out for me”, then in no time it will seem like Lady Luck keeps smiling on you. And no matter what hand you’ve been dealt, you’ll begin to feel like you’re always playing your cards right.
Standing still for a moment, from a Chinese medicine perspective, can help us become more centered and grounded. Yet standing still for too long invites stagnation, stifling our ability to step forward at all. And so to encourage healthy movement toward goals and dreams, practice deep breathing, walking in nature, stretching, and repeating the affirmation, “I am learning, growing, and gaining momentum every day at a pace that’s perfect for me”.
Fear and excitement are two sides of the same emotion, according to Chinese medicine. And so to start feeling the desire instead of the dread, practice taking a small step outside your comfort zone every day. Wearing a bold new color, wishing a stranger a good day, and treating yourself to dinner alone at a restaurant you’ve heard is fabulous are all effective ways to begin changing your thinking from fearful to fun-loving.
To be on the right track, we don’t need to have everything all figured out. In fact, we can miss magical opportunities for the Universe to work its mojo if we overthink, overplan, and overdo in an effort to overcontrol a particular outcome. From a Chinese medicine perspective, an imbalanced lung meridian can have us forcing our fate instead of holding a desire in mind and allowing it to flow naturally to us. By practicing deep belly breathing and affirming, “All is unfolding perfectly in Divine timing”, we teach ourselves to trust that all is right and well and good – all the time.
When we suffer loss or disappointment, it’s natural to grieve and reflect on what’s happened. That process is how we heal, and there’s not one way or formula or timeline that feels right for everyone. In Chinese medicine, the lung and large intestine meridians govern grief and letting go. And so breathing issues and digestive difficulties can arise when at some point we can’t seem to stop gazing in the rear view mirror once we again try to navigate this thing called life. Deep breathing and walks in nature can help us remember we must keep our eyes on the road ahead so we can not only start to move forward again – but also begin looking for new blessings coming our way.